If I ask for help, it means I’m weak!

Perhaps you agree with the above but here’s something interesting from www.psychcentral.com about asking for help:

Myth: It makes us look vulnerable.



Truth: Asking for help creates an atmosphere of empowerment. It communicates to others that, while you may not have the answers, you are willing to find them and make things better. […]

Myth: Highly successful people never ask for help.



Truth: Actually, successful individuals will tell you that the key to success is knowing your strengths and weaknesses. Learning how to delegate, asking for help and letting others show you the way are part of the plan. Successful people are driven and motivated — and when the going gets tough, the tough ask for help!

So it turns out that asking for help can actually be a strength. But is there a right time to ask for help and if so, when is that? Here are a few steps to consider.

1. Acknowledge the problem
Don’t try to pretend it’s not there or sweep it under the carpet or say you are going to deal with it later. The sooner you face it, the sooner you will overcome it. Not dealing with an issue in your relationship for example could be fatal.

2. Try to solve the problem yourself

What can you do yourself to solve this issue? What haven’t you tried yet? Go ahead and do whatever you can to solve it.

3. Swallow the pride

As human beings, we like to show that we have it all together and we can handle it, but there comes a point that we have to swallow our pride and admit that we can’t do it alone. So if you’ve already tried to solve the problem and nothing has changed or it’s gotten worse, it’s time for the next step.

4. Ask help from the right person
Beware who you speak to. Does the person have your best interests at heart? Do they have success in the area you need help with? Make sure that you speak to someone that can actually make a difference in your life and that may even be an outside organisation.

5. Keep a positive self-image 

Don’t feel weak or stupid when asking for help. You’re not weak – you are actually strong because you are trying to do something about the situation. It might be difficult or embarrassing to ask for help, but it will be much worse facing the failure of whatever you are asking for help for.


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