Whatever you expect will happen

Whatever you expect will happen

“I feel good now, but I know it’s going to come back,” a young woman said to me describing how she was feeling regarding her battle with depression.

In my opinion, it’s just not possible to ever move forward and overcome certain issues in life if you think this way.

I remember as I was gradually recovering from depression, I did have my difficult days. I was getting better step by step, but there were the odd days where it would be harder. But what kept me going was believing in my end goal, EXPECTING to be depression-free, so I continued getting  support and taking positive actions and that’s what happened. What I expected and believed happened. No more depression for 18 years and it will never come back.

If you expect bad things to happen (or to return to you), you will only see negative things around you which will seem like proof that you were right. Those things which had no strength over you are now given power. You don’t see all the positive things in your way, and you kill any strength that was attempting to grow inside of you. Then you feel discouraged and end up stuck in this cycle.

BREAK THE CYCLE TODAY and EXPECT your life to be different from today on. Take positive actions and if you face an obstacle, see it as something that you will fight to overcome and then be strengthened through that experience.

If you need to talk, I’m here for you. Email me on chris@chrissybshow.tv. There is no problem that can’t be solved.

Also remember, for plenty of practical advice to be a happier you, tune in to my show on SKY 203 every Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 10pm and also on YouTube: ‘Chrissy B Show’.

There are 2 comments for this article
  1. Niki at 4:02 pm

    Hi Chrissy, I only learned of your TV programme today as I was flicking through TV channels. I was having a chill-out day but nothing there to keep me positive. So finding me writing to you, after looking over your website, is not usual for me take this step but there’s something I have no idea how to deal with. I have three big health issues but the one I will live with the longest is clinical depression.

    For most of my life I have been a person that family thought little of, didn’t hear or have a conversation with. This made me a lonely child/teenager and I thought that it would get better as I became an adult … but that has not proven to be. Nobody, even my own parents or siblings, valued me but I was a do-er and an organised person who they came to for assistance.

    In my 40th year, I still find my wider family know not how treat me when we meet at gatherings and there is still no real empathy or respect that I now don’t want to deal or mix with them. This puts me at a disadvantage in terms of keeping in touch with the younger generation who also don’t know me as I’ve kept myself at a distance.

    Having been badly hurt and isolated, I feel better for not having the wider family in my life except those individuals who I can be myself with. My life is not moving on and I need to change my priorities so I can really enjoy my life. I have grown into a more spiritual person and although the family are religious, they procrastinate which is why I find it difficult to be around them. To them, I guess I am like the black sheep of the family and, indeed, that’s how they make me feel.

    My mind process is now at a big crossroads. Those closest to me sympathise but en masse, cannot help. None of the family have challenged me to say why I’m behaving like this, knowing that I am a dutiful and loyal person at heart. It seems they don’t want to know or even address my concerns as they have their own families who take priority, which is fair enough but then ask favours of me. I don’t want repayment in any way but just an acknowledgement of respect of me and my life would go a long way.

    Any advise that you can give, Chrissy, would help me as I’ve struggled a long time with this but my health is now suffering and I need to re-prioritise without hurting anyone.

    • Christoulla Boodram Author at 9:58 am

      Hi Niki. Thanks so much for your email. I’m so sorry I’m replying to you so late. For some reason I didn’t get a notification about your post and only saw it this week as I was checking a few things on my website. I am going to reply to you from my email so please look out for it and check your junk mail too. xxx

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